In life, it is not always sunshine and rainbows. You must anticipate thunderstorms, rainy and gloomy days, earthquakes and typhoons tomorrow, the next day or maybe just a few hours later. Just like what they say, you will not know what happiness feels if you do not experience pain and sadness, and you will not learn your lessons without failing and committing mistakes. And trust me, none of these words are wrong, because my 2013 taught me these things and even showed me what “expect the unexpected” really means.
Love is not the only battlefield but also life. You may think you know who to trust or not, but sometimes what you think is not always right; because in reality, whether he or she is your friend, a relative or a total stranger, at the end of the day he or she can be your nemesis. How did I know? Because betrayal had been my best friend for past few months, but the good thing with this is no matter how much pain it caused me, the truth had finally revealed and the chance to be stronger had given to me. And what is the lesson I got from here? Trust should be given with a checklist and when dealing with problems one great thing should keep in mind: focusing on your goals and studies are good, but not on your difficulties and problems –because the tendency of not noticing the opportunities, the people who love and support you and the great things in life might happen and you might only regret the chances that you did not take.
Everyone has something to say about you, but not everybody’s opinion matters to you. You know you cannot please everyone, and there will be a time when whatever you do or say, people will take it against you. Another thing I learned this year is the power of “deadma”. Instead of wasting your time reading and replying those hate posts of those people who do not even know you personally and the only agenda in life are to judge and to ruin the life of the people they are insecure about, better give them the best revenge they deserve: do not give a damn on whatever they say and show how happy and confident you are in your life, because that is one thing they do not have.
Nobody imagines a life without love (because it is like imagining a life without chocolates and sweets). And let us all be real, everybody wants fairy tales with happy endings, yet each one of us should realize that in reality, love and relationship cannot be as perfect as fairy tales without contentment, teamwork, understanding and a relationship made with unconditional love, which is already beyond perfect –and these I learned all because of one guy. If there is one best thing I am thankful for this year, it is to finally meet my prince charming. I have been dreaming for a relationship with a guy that is worth having for and honestly, from the first day of our relationship until today, I keep on telling myself how lucky I am to have Seph; because everyday he proves me that he is not just a guy that is worth having for, but also someone who is worth loving, caring and trusting. With him, I learned that love is not about fairy tales and happy endings, because love is about choices and a lifetime relationship: the choice of the person to love with and the choice of path that you and your partner will take to make your relationship work and make it last forever. Do you need a fairy godmother to make it happen? No, all you need is to wait. Wait for the right time to come and wait for the fate and true love to do the magic. Don’t pressure yourself, because when your true love comes, you got no way out!
It may not always be sunshine and rainbows in life, but at the end of every storm, each will make their way to show you how great and wonderful life is. It may be hard at first to realize that there are so much things to be thankful for because of the lost, the trials and the pain each situation caused you, but when the right time comes, you will know that without those wrong decisions and challenges that caused you so much trouble, you will not be a better person and there will be no lessons learned. So wear your most beautiful smile, look at the positive side of things and start your 2014 with hope and new goals in life because it will be a year full of challenges, choices and opportunities.
Photos by Seph Cham